Lessons from the married life of Moses

How does the wife out of House?

Allah's Prophet Moses Egypt, left in fear waiting for worried, that there the situation caused by him may calm down,", and when he came to the water of Midian, he found a crowd of people, the (livestock) soaked." And besides them, he found two women, the restrained (their cattle). He said: "what is with you? They said: "we can not soak (our stock), as have moved on to the shepherds (their flocks), and our father is an old man, up soft." (Sûrah 28:23)

 

So, the two women mentioned the reason why they had left the House. You had to soak the cattle because her father had reached already a great age and was no longer even to able.Despite these circumstances they absented themselves but by the watering hole. They did this because it is not fitting for a woman, to mingle with the men. If she must still leave the House for any reason, she should behave themselves Islamic and keep away from suspicious and dubious places.

 

It is up to you, to keep protected and covered, how it writes before Allâh, the exalted, her: "And remain in your homes and shows off not like in the times of ignorance..." (Sûrah 33:33),"...und if you they ask for anything, so she asks behind a curtain.This is purer for your hearts and their hearts..." (Sûrah 33:53)

 

And if he also says: "O ye are not wives of the Prophet, like other women! If you are righteous, then are not decorated in the speeches, so not the one in whose heart is a disease have expectations, but speak in proper words." (Sûrha 33:32), "And they should not strike their feet so that known is what by their trappings are hiding." (Sûrah 24:31)

 

Still, Allâh, the exalted, said his Prophet - and we are also so addressed as its community: "O prophet!" Say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers, their scarves to look deeply about themselves. It's better to be recognized and not molested. "And Allâh is oft-forgiving, most merciful." (Sûrah 33:59)

 

The Prophet Allah may hold him in honour and it pleased give said: "The woman is the Shepherdess in the home and is responsible for her flock." The House is so the Kingdom of Muslim women; If she leaves there, so it should avoid crowds, lower their eyes and from head to toe Islamically correct dress so tight nor transparent. These clothes must be neither striking nor decorated and may resemble the clothing of men nor of the non-Muslims.

 

Even in places of worship that is joint amounts of men and women are not allowed, as for example at the to overshoot of the Ka ´ women behind the rows of men run ba, at the. And, as is known, the best rows for men are the latter in prayer the front and the scherflein. Among women, however, the last series are the dead-end the best and the front.

 

So you can quickly see that the separation between men and women represents an Islamic effort that we need to preserve, it was in the school or on public transport.

 

And it's only to our all advantage, because the Prophet may Allah keep him in honour and give him pleasure no heavier seduction for the man, mentioned as the temptation of the woman, as well known to the charms of women were the first temptation for the children of Israel.

 

Certainly, the shameless, revealing woman represents the most dangerous damage to our society. This is also the reason why are the enemies of Islâm scrambling just to send them, by making it a trap for themselves and for others on the pretext of reputation after law and justice in the destruction.

 

And for precisely this reason, they raise the flags, calling to equate the woman in all areas of life, and to treat, and underline that the woman embodies the half company.

 

Others call it, the woman as Director of relief initiatives to choose and to free them from the shackles of religion. In reality, however, this radiant motto is just a call, the woman as a worthless goods before everyone's eyes to show up and use it to split the company and to dissuade them from their faith.

 

The woman in the light of the laws of Allah lost because, so their rights must now be protected by ill-intentioned people? Allâh never forgets, he, wife, society and his adoring serving certainly the pure, the caring, the dispenser of mercy towards. The man is just like not the wife. It is that gives birth, breastfeed, their rule and gets their puerperium. Yes, she is one half of society and gives birth to the second half. She plays a role and has its place and its proper position in the life.

 

And the true freedom for men and women is reflected in the acts of worship and in holding the revelation book of Allah and the way of life of the Messenger may Allah keep him in honour and pleased give him reflected. Therefore, there is no need to introduce any rotten, destructive freedoms of the West or the East for us. "Today have I completed your doctrine of the faith for you and fulfilled my favor upon you and chosen you Islâm to faith." (Sûrah 5:3)

 

Furthermore is not the beauty of women in their freedom of movement, but is expressed in their modesty that has only positive sides and leads only to good. Shame and faith are connected to each other. The one that eliminates the other finds more no support. It belongs to what remains us of the words of our former prophets, the statement: "If you you no shame, then do what you want."

 

And so the woman covered with the face veil, that had gone out, asking for her deceased son, after she had been granted on wearing the face veil in such a situation said: "I'm losing my son, is certainly better than losing my modesty me."

For these reasons therefore, the two women from the job, the men gathered at the, stayed away despite the need for livestock watering.

Importance of humility and supplication

"So he watered (their flocks) for them." Then he retreated into the shadows and said: «Mister, I need good, what is it that you like cut down on me. And one of the two came went to him, walking bashfully. She said: «my father's calling you, so that he can give you pay for it, that you (our stock) for us soaked did." ». (Sûrah 28:24-25)

 

The broad Moses, Prophet of Allah is the result of generosity, helpfulness, and virtue,... and the adoring servant of Allah, will truly never be lost with its subjection to him, nor will he be disappointed... So the good took its course and it was a matter decided by Allâh, irrevocable.

 

He watered the animals for the women and then turned to his Lord as it says in the Qurân: "then he withdrew in the shade and said: «Mister, I need good, what is it that you like send down on me." (Sûrah 28:24)

 

He was well aware of his poverty and expressed the grief his creator to his situation, because he is Yes the wealthy, commendable, which absorbs the broken, to the old mercy, forgive missteps, takes away worries and satisfies needs.

 

The man is provided with desires and drives to the test, he may follow only in the permitted. Therefore, he is instructed, but also a wife, where he finds comfort and support, to carry the burden of truth clothing and shelter in this life not only on food, drink, as the woman who needs a husband, where she finds confidence and which assists them in performing the commandments of Allah.

 

And we can find all our needs by Allâh, the pure, because in a Hadîth declining on Allâh, Allâh says: "O my servant, when the first of you and the last of you, of the people under you and the Jinn of you would gather together in a Valley, would ask me then, I then gave it all, what they asked ", would that take away from me nothing on my reign, except something like what remains on a needle, when she was immersed in the sea."

 

And regardless of whether the adoring servant enjoys the support resulting from a marriage or, should he set getting after the Moses and to lead its poverty and weakness to Allâh constantly in mind. And one of three, that is, Allah support that marries, to preserve the chastity.

 

As ´ Umar Ibn Al-Khattab: "I am puzzled about the man who seeks the prosperity not in marriage, where but Allâh says: " and married your widows and the (heirats-) enabled under your slaves (prisoners of war), male as female. "" If they are poor, so Allâh will make rich them from his bounty, for Allâh is generous, knowing." (Sûrah 24:32)

 

Also to note is the great position of the Bittgebetes, because when Moses turned to his Lord and said: "Mister, I need good, what is it that you on me like send down." (Sûrah 28:24), bashfully, already one of the two women came to him and said: "my dad calling you so that he can give you pay for this, that you (our cattle) have soaked for us." (Sûrah 28: 25)

 

The proposal of the father with one of his daughters to marry Moses

And when Moses, the Prophet of Allah, told the father of the two women, what had happened to him in Egypt, he said: "fear not; You escaped the ruthless people." (Sûrah 28:25)

And one of his two daughters said: "O my father, him against wage set;because the best man you can set for wages, is one that is strong, honest! ", and because he replied: "I will give you one of these my daughters to marry on the condition that you serve me for eight years. " Do you make fully then ten (years), it is there with you. I want to be but not harsh to you;you will find, if Allâh so wills, me as one of the righteous." (Sûrah 28:26-27)

 He offered that his force, so his daughter, whom he regarded as righteous, so how the righteous managed it, as well as ´ Umar ibn al-Khattab, the daughters Abû Bakr and Uthmân ´ had offered.

Of course there are when choosing a spouse very carefully; and when questioned about al-Hasan, who you should marry his daughter, he replied:"she married the pious, pure! "Because if he likes her, so he treated them with honour, and should he do not like them, so he not humbles you."

Righteousness and the desire to obey Allâh, are the qualities that make the man, not origin, profession, wealth or health, what about the majority of the scholars even defect is regarded as.

Also the guardianship of the husband over his wife must not be understood as domination or oppression, instead making a custody under the mantle of compassion and mercy, and for the benefit of women.

So the choice of two women on the strong, honest, who was one of the most steadfast and determined the Messenger fell. And the righteous father followed the route of the pious with his offer to marry, which was also consent. Because someone like Moses, the Prophet of Allah, is verily no one dragging should be, even if he is poor. So the contract was concluded without any arrogance, doubt or wore. Not so, like some people do, who have no fear of God, after the candidate was presented the coveted woman. These are things that should be considered during the first call.

As well the woman can not be forced someone to marry she don't want, nor decide them independently without their guardian, as it is said in a Hadîth: (there are) no marriage (concluded), except by the guardian.

If so marries a wife without the permission of their legal guardian, it is absolutely null and void according to the predominant opinion of the former as well as the present-day scholars. Even if she married a distant relative, although there is one her näherstehenden relatives, their marriage is invalid, unless the related difficult or forbids her marriage with a suitable husband.

So, just how does the prostitute get married the woman herself, nor she is married to another woman. Only her guardian takes over this task. That preserved their rights and at the same time keep grief. This starting point shows us the falsity and the danger of an against the conditions of marriage, in which the woman without consulting married with her guardian even.

In the story of Moses, peace be upon him is also an expressive response for those who invoke emotions and passion before the marriage for love, and claim that a marriage without them can take place. So, de facto relationships formed before and after the engagement. Most of these people marry even after the Sunnah of the Prophet, but imitate the love stories and stories and traditions of Western life styles

The research of the Dean of Institute of opinion polls showed that 1,500 of marriages built on extramarital relationships were based. This should be a surprise one, because a bad end stems from a bad beginning. The adoring servant begins his job badly, so also the end is bad; and this is the case, so he belongs to those who perish except he frequently turns to Allâh and repent.

The today's emerging romantic relationships are based mostly on pretense, artfulness and beautification. And if we look at the reality, we have to admit that the ideas of love quickly vanish after the marriage, when takes care of the woman just about cooking, washing, and the children, let yourself go and forget the meaning of marriage. Is the home for the man as a hotel, in which he only eats and sleeps.

Of course, couples should get married, but should be taking into account the Islamic rules on this. If a marriage but fails, so it is not correct to sit on top of the ruins and to sing with passion about it or stretching down poems about the dog straying in the streets of his beloved. Because that is just wasted time, you would have better spent in the remembrance of Allah.

So blessed fruits intended marriage, she must run right from the start.

The woman is married for four reasons: because of their wealth, their beauty, their origin and their faith. But choose the believers, otherwise you will lose!

 

"And if someone comes to you with its behaviour and faith, you're happy, then married him! You don't, there will be temptation on Earth and great damage."

 

One who admits the perfect decision power to the creator and to Council asks the creatures, which will not be disappointed. The man should intend to get engaged, with a woman then he may look at it, and she must look at him; This helps you decide. The engagement is requested at the guardian and identifies the relationship between the two are strangers, alsolediglich a promise to the marriage.

 

 

Is your consent, the original situation occurs again, that means he she can neither see nor be alone with her, nor may they recede in conversations with him or flaunt their charms. The contract comes after the engagement and after this marriage. But we distinguish between the one who entered into the contract with you and the you had me already the intercourse. One who entered into the contract of marriage, only once has the right to pronounce divorce; He does this, a new wedding gift and a new Treaty is needed. Those who slept with the woman has three divorce spells.

 

The contract received woman has in a divorce only the right on the half of the dower, whereas, in the intercourse has taken place, receives the entire bridal gift. Also the waiting period shall not apply to the promised woman after the divorce. And the sexual intercourse committed to supply and accommodation.

 

Now we see how occurred the marriage between Moses, the Prophet of Allah, and the daughter of the righteous man, as Moses himself pledged to preserve his chastity. So both sides have decided for each other, are agreed and have determined the dowry. In this way the problems and difficulties are solved and they beeidigten this matter with her words: "And Allâh is witness of what we say." (Sûrah 28:28)

 

We also need witnesses at the marriage and should announce this. For perhaps lies the honest or dies, and people who know nothing of honesty to follow him. The present certification of contracts at the Registrar serve only the warranty and guarantee their rights. Because without this marriage would be Islamically speaking correctly. And to what us, heard that the main treaties must be respected, which, with which we make our gender for the other allowed.

 

It can also happen that someone calls something to which he has no right to this point. Let's say for example, he calls the sexual intercourse to a time in which he the woman neither finances nor lives with her, or at a time that was not agreed with the guardian. Then he dies or getting divorced from her and conceals the sexual intercourse with her. The woman became pregnant but now, never lived together with the husband, and if then her guardian for example four months after intercourse announced the marriage people amazed not bad when a child is born after five months already. Such situations lead concerns and damage, as well as losing his face in his environment.Therefore, it is very important to keep that comply with the Islamic laws on the rules and practices of Islam and the traditions.

 

Compliance with the conditions stipulated in the marriage contract

 

The Qurân now performs a jump with us and leads us after witnesses of the contract between Moses peace be we upon him and became the righteous man, other teachings, for when Moses had fulfilled the term, and was traveling with his family, he perceived a fire in the direction of the mountain. He said to his:"stand back, I itty-bitty a fire; "maybe I can get you a customer or a fire, so that you can warm you." (Sûrah 28:29). Moses peace be upon him had fulfilled the promises and the Muslim keeps his promises, Yes. He had started a family and his family demonstrated his compassion and his effort. In a Hadîth says:"the best amongst you is the one who best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family."

 

Marriage is really one of the hugest wonder, which is love and mercy, 'And among his signs is this, that he created mates for you from yourselves, so that her Majesty peace in them, and he has put love and tenderness between you.' (Sûrah 30:21)

 

This is the blessed marriage, which builds on Islamic customs and estimate highly the rites of Allah, even if at the beginning of the marriage, the relationship and love were missing. As with Allah's help, the good and blessing rich will find fulfillment."Those who believe and do good works - the most gracious love will make them." (Sûrah 19:96). Allâh so will make them love in the heart. It remains then to be seen, how it develops and how fail the assessments of the benefits resulting from such marriage. Even if it's not the kind of love that is mentioned in love stories.

 

Once a man came to Umar ibn al-Khattab and told him that he wanted to divorce his wife, and then Umar asked him: "Why?" He said: "because I don't love her." Thereupon Umar said: "and because each is built on love? Where are care and protection bid?"

 

Also, the constant allusion to the divorce is not one of the signs of a healthy relationship. The divorce is obligatory in some cases, in others recommended, sometimes even forbidden or unwelcome, but never simply just something in between. And in a weak hadeeth it says: "The verhassteste permitted by Allâh is the divorce."

 

It happens that a man pronounces the divorce three times so that the divorced woman for him is only allowed if has another married her and is divorced from her. How important is the fear of God in this great bargain! Another problem is that there are some men who know no other way to educate them constantly to threaten to marry another woman, their wives, what has the consequence that polygamy has become a threat against bad manners and behavior.

 

Muhammad, the Prophet of Allah may Allah keep him in honour and give him pleasure, is the best role model for us. So he was but the best husband to his wives, he raised his hand against a woman, nor against a slave against the cattle, except as they infringed the law of Allah. He was always in the service of his family and ran even with  'ischa, the mother of the believers to the bet. He was just to his wives in relation to maintenance, accommodation and his stay with them. Again, we need families, based on fear of God and the teachings of the faith, in good and in bad times. Only in the light of such families a youth can grow up, people like Abû Bakr, Umar, Uthmân, Alî, Khalid, Al-Miqdâd, Al-QA'qa ' and produce Salâh. She gives his religion-new rise of Allâh and increases his words through them. You will just rule the world. This is easy indeed for Allâh!

Category: Family & society, The Prophets